Below is a widely accepted definition that is all encompassing, to include a religious take on the subject of pornography.
"Pornography is any material despicting or describing the human body or sexual conduct in a way that arouses sexual feelings. It is distributed through many media, including magazines, books, television, movies, music, and the Internet. It is as harmful to the Spirit as tobacco, alcohol, and drugs are to the body. Using pornographic material in any way is a violation of a commandment of God. “thou shalt not… commit adultery… nor do anything like unto it” (D&C 59:6). It can lead to other serious sins. Members of the Church should avoid pornography in any form and should oppose its production, distribution, and use." (Quoted from lds.org)
That part about it being “distributed through many media”
including magazines and books is of particular interest here because those
mediums are often overlooked. I’m not referring to Penthouse or Maxim, I’m
talking about girly magazines and romance novels. Even at BYU the University
owned and run by the church, with an almost exclusive student body of worthy
student church members has apparently let the ball slip on this one by putting romance
novels in their library.
The church is against romance novels and even labels them as another
form of pornography,
providing resources for those who become addicted. Yes that’s right, addicted. Interesting
thing though, is that while the church gains substantial support for coming out
against pornography, you know in its usual medium of videos and images of “female
exploitation”, when it comes to pornographic literature, they seem to crusade
that front alone, absent of support, while even facing opposition.
Society still displays these venues of porn out in the open for
everyone to see such as in grocery stores with all the other literature, while
covering up and even banning pornographic magazines. My personal opinion is that
this is simply because women like romance novels, and therefore it is okay
because porn is a male problem right? There is a huge double standard when it
comes to women and sex. For example, I’m a pervert if I watch a trashy video,
while its normal for her to read a saucy romance novel. I’m also a pervert if I
like the triple tited hooker on Total Recall, while her watching Magic Mike is her
just having a fun girls night out. This same example applies to me wanting to
eat at Hooters, which isn’t even a strip join but a family restaurant, while
she gets to have fun at Chip’n’dales, an actual strip join, yet I’m still the
pervert. It doesn’t even stop there, she
gets to have all the sex she wants and is considered sexual liberated for doing
so since apparently the word slut is being remodeled
as if it were somehow a positive attribute, whereas if I desire sex, I’m a dog,
a deviant, even a rapist.
She even gets to have toys for her own pleasure, whereas if I masturbate, I’m a
pathetic loser.
With pornography, whether literature or video, it makes no
difference. There are many definitions for pornography, but all settle on the
fact that it is material which causes sexual arousal or excitement and is
portrayed through several mediums that deliver this arousal through the various
senses. That’s right, not just the visual sense, but also the auditory. Then
your mind becomes fixated on the fantasy, and causes your thoughts to dwell on
what is being fed through the bodies senses. At this point it’s easy to see how
one medium is essentially as destructive as the other, so why don’t more people
come out against it? Well I already explained that earlier because of gender
discrimination. If there is another reason please by all means say so because
the only way to tackle a problem is to root it out at the source and we can
only do that if we identify the actual source.
I’m against pornography even though I’ve viewed it before. I’m
human and I’m fallow, so done judge me too harshly. The experience though has
also shown me how destructive it can be. There are many reasons not to view
pornography, the main one being that it detracts from the Spirit, but there are
also practical
reasons too.
The same could be said for women because sometimes I really can tell when a
woman is obsessed with fantasy sex. Part of it, is her unrealistic expectations
for the relationship, as well as her inability to understand the basics about what
men want or even need. Granted women are raised to believe men are simple
creatures, stupid, easy to manipulate, etc. But with age comes wisdom and after
trial and error many women begin to pick up on the fact that they were lied to
growing up and begin their journey to understanding men as they are. Others do
not because they are stuck in a world of fairy tales and fantasy, where they still
believe in the indoctrinated delusion, that all men are like the big blubbering
vaginas featured on soap opera TV or in their cheesy romance novels who seem
possessed of the feminine mystique, and if they aren’t, it’s because they are
losers and not worth a woman’s attention. That’s right, women grow old and
alone because men are not worthy of their hand in marriage. So men need to man
up and do their duty to the otherwise perfect female specimen that society has
raised and he is squandering. Yea right, what a load of crap!
We have word to describe people who blame everyone else for their
plight, its called narcissism. Remember,
the only consistently dysfunctional feature in all your relationships, is you.
So I’m tired of men getting all the blame for the marriage failures of today,
when many of the problems contributing to the breakdown have nothing to do with
them, or are only partly to do with them. Honestly, it boils my blood to know
that I’m doing everything I can to be the man she deserves, yet she is not
doing likewise to be the woman I deserve, and yet the entire fault lies with me.
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